Wednesday, September 19, 2018


My first experience with self-help books was by accident, and sort of blew my mind. My Mom had gotten the book, "The Secret" back when I was in high-school (when it was all the buzz) and for some reason, I read it and I remember thinking, WAIT! I can make my life whatever I want it to be????

So, I made a vision board, like the book suggested. And then I sat back and waited for the Louis Vuitton bag that I had printed off to show up at my doorstep...

Annnd it didn't, lol. Because it turns out, you can totally change your life, but in order to do so, you have to actually change your life. Whether that be your daily routine, your career or just your mindset. But all of those are actually really, really hard. There's a reason there are so many of us wandering around so unhappy. It's hard to grow up, and change. But I think that's the challenge and the beauty of becoming an adult; that we get to change. And you can start by reading a self-help book. Seriously, if you want a different life, there's a book for that. 

Here are three that I'm reading right now, based on three very different areas of MY LIFE that I'm working on...


I know, I know, I know. I talk about this one nonstop, lol. But it was / IS life changing for me. And I'll be reading it for a while because it's not something you can (or should) read quickly and move on from. You have to learn through digging deep, getting really real with yourself and taking action. And that goes for everything...

"First published in 1995, Intuitive Eating has become the go-to book on rebuilding a healthy body image and making peace with food. We've all been there―angry with ourselves for overeating, for our lack of willpower, for failing at yet another diet. But the problem is not us; it's that dieting, with its emphasis on rules and regulations, has stopped us from listening to our bodies. Written by two prominent nutritionists, Intuitive Eating will teach you: 
• How to reject diet mentality forever 
• How our three Eating Personalities define our eating difficulties 
• How to find satisfaction in your eating 
• How to feel your feelings without using food 
• How to honor hunger and feel fullness 
• How to follow the ten principles of "Intuitive Eating", 
• How to achieve a new and safe relationship with food and, ultimately, your body 
• How to raise an "intuitive eater!"
• And the incredible science behind intuitive eating!"


This is not a sexy book. It's science. But I think every women NEEDS to read it. This one is also taking me forever, but mostly because I'm hardly ever in the mood to read it (lol), but it's FASCINATING. Like, did you know men and women start off the exact same...with the exact same "parts?" And then once sex is determined, they're just arranged differently, meaning they'll work differently. It's true! So if you've ever wondered why you're "not working" like a man...this is why.

"An essential exploration of why and how women’s sexuality works—based on groundbreaking research and brain science—that will radically transform your sex life into one filled with confidence and joy.

Researchers have spent the last decade trying to develop a “pink pill” for women to function like Viagra does for men. So where is it? Well, for reasons this book makes crystal clear, that pill will never be the answer—but as a result of the research that’s gone into it, scientists in the last few years have learned more about how women’s sexuality works than we ever thought possible, and Come as You Are explains it all.

The first lesson in this essential, transformative book by Dr. Emily Nagoski is that every woman has her own unique sexuality, like a fingerprint, and that women vary more than men in our anatomy, our sexual response mechanisms, and the way our bodies respond to the sexual world. So we never need to judge ourselves based on others’ experiences. Because women vary, and that’s normal.

Second lesson: sex happens in a context. And all the complications of everyday life influence the context surrounding a woman’s arousal, desire, and orgasm.

Cutting-edge research across multiple disciplines tells us that the most important factor for women in creating and sustaining a fulfilling sex life, is not what you do in bed or how you do it, but how you feel about it. Which means that stress, mood, trust, and body image are not peripheral factors in a woman’s sexual wellbeing; they are central to it. Once you understand these factors, and how to influence them, you can create for yourself better sex and more profound pleasure than you ever thought possible.

And Emily Nagoski can prove it."


I just binged this one super fast and now I'm going back and doing all the writing exercises because it's a lot. NONE of this "work" is easy. But especially not when it involves going back in your childhood to sort through the people and events that shaped you. But, I loved it! I really, really loved it. Gabby Bernstein fans / "miracle workers" - this one is for you. 

"Louise L. Hay, bestselling author, is an internationally known leader in the self-help field. Her key message is: "If we are willing to do the mental work, almost anything can be healed." The author has a great deal of experience and firsthand information to share about healing, including how she cured herself after being diagnosed with cancer. An excerpt from You Can Heal Your Life: Life Is Really Very Simple. What We Give Out, We Get Back What we think about ourselves becomes the truth for us. I believe that everyone, myself included, is responsible for everything in our lives, the best and the worst. Every thought we think is creating our future. Each one of us creates our experiences by our thoughts and our feelings. The thoughts we think and the words we speak create our experiences."

**And side note - I do think with personal development, it's okay to be reading multiple books at the same time. I could never do that with a novel because I'd end up getting characters confused, lol. But with this, it's all about what I feel like I need that day. So, I never know what I'll be in the mood for, or feel like I need to focus on that day. 

And now, my gift to you - my entire self-help book guide broken down into categories based on what you may need to work on yourself.

My advice is to start committing to at least ONE book a month, and really take the time to dig in + start putting into practice what you're learning. There is no rushing this. Often times, we try to rush through a book thinking that just hearing the words will affect us, but not true. You need to absorb some things multiple times, and then take action. And what you read will depend on what you need help WITH. Start by making a list of areas that you're struggling with. Are you going through a transitional period? What are certain areas of your life that you want to improve on? Have any past experiences that are holding you back and you're ready to break free from? THINK.

And then keep in mind that it will be hard. Especially if it's really personal. You may read a chapter, and then need to take a few days to feel through what it brought up. Or you might be implementing new behaviors, and change is always hard. Also know that if you start something and you're struggling to connect, that's okay. Maybe it's just not the right time. Or not what you really need at the moment. I started this awesome book called, "Quiet" all about the power of Introverts - TWO YEARS AGO - and I have yet to finish it because I'm okay with being an Introvert! I find it fascinating, but there are a lot of other pressing things that I want to work on right now to move my life forward, right now. So keep in mind, that you can always go back to things later. So put it down, and start something else. (Or rotate, like I said!) 

And TIP! If you don't like to read, or dont' have time -  AUDIO!!! You can get a lot of books on audio from the Library, or by subscribing to Audible. (Affiliated with Amazon.) Listen in your car, on your commute, while you walk the dog or fold the laundry. Even just ten minutes a day is beneficial! *You can sign up for a 30-day trial with Audible and get your first book FREE. And even when you cancel, you get to keep it. Nice little hack if you have multiple emails too, lol!


  • Five Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts - Gary Chapman
  • The Go Giver - Bob Burg
  • How To Win Friends & Influence People - Dale Carnegie
  • The Fred Factor: How Passion in Your Work and Life Can Turn the Ordinary into the Extraordinary - Mark Sandborn
  • Personality Plus: How to Understand Others by Understanding Yourself - Florence Littauer
  • Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Love and Life from Dear Sugar - Cheryl Strayed
  • Friendship: A Novel - Emily Gould
  • Just Listen: Discover the Secret to Getting Through to Absolutely Anyone - Mark Goulston
  • Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus: The Classic Guide to Understanding the Opposite Sex - John Gray 


  • Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up - Marie Kondo
  •  Pretty Happy: Healthy Ways to Love Your Body - Kate Hudson
  • No Excuses - Brian Tracy
  • Change Your Thinking, Change Your Life - Simone Sinek
  • Desire Map: A Guide to Creating Goals with Soul - Danielle LaPorte
  • Unlimited: How to Build an Exceptional Life - Jillian Michaels
  • High Performance Habits: How Extraordinary People Become That Way - Hay House
  • The Life Changing Magic of Not Giving a Fu*k: How to Stop Spending Time You Don’t Have With People You Don’t Like, Doing Things You Don’t Want to Do - Sarah Knight
  • On Fire: The 7 Choices to Ignite a Radically Inspired Life - John O’ Leary
  • The Gift of Imperfections: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are - Brene Brown
  • The Happiness Project - Gretchen Rubin
  • Present Over Perfect -Shauna Niequist


  • The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life - Mark Manson
  • Get Over Your Damn Self: The No-BS Blueprint to Building a Life Changing Business - Romi Neustadt
  • You Can, You Will - Joel Osteen
  • The Charge - Brenden Buchard
  • The Power of Intention - Wayne Dyer
  • Awaken The Giant Within - Tony Robbins
  • The Universe Has Your Back: Transform Fear to Faith - Gabrielle Bernstein
  • Failing Forward - John C. Maxwell
  • Start: Punch Fear In The Face - Jon Acuff
  • Daring Greatly - Brene Brown
  • Unfu*k Yourself: BS-Free Self-Empowerment Guide - Gary John Bishop
  • Break Through Your BS: Uncover Your Brains Blindspots and Unleash Your Inner Greatness - Derek Doepker
  • Unfu*k Yourself - Gary John Bishop


  • She Means Business: Turn Your Ideas Into Reality and Become A Wildly Successful Entrepreneur - Carrie Green
  • You Are A Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life - Jen Sincero
  • The Confidence Code: The Science and Art of Self Assurance - Katty Kay
  • Braving The Wilderness: The Quest For True Belonging and Courage To Stand Alone - Brene Brown


  • May Cause Miracles: A 40-day Guidebook of Subtle Shifts for Radical Change and Unlimited Happiness - Gabby Bernstein
  • The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide To Personal Freedom - Don Miguel Ruiz
  • The Power of Now: A Guide To Spiritual Enlightenment - Eckhart Tolle
  • You Can Heal Your Life - Louise L. Hay
  • A Course in Miracles Made Easy: Mastering the Journey from Fear to Love - Alan Cohen


  • Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear - Elizabeth Gilbert
  • The Obstacle Is The Way: The Timeless Act of Turning Trials Into Triumps
  • Carry On Warrior: The Power Of Embracing Your Messy Beautiful Life - Glennon Doyle Melton
  • Choosing Real: An Invitation to Celebrate When Life Doesn't Go as Planned -Bekah Jane Pogue
  • The Obstacle Is the Way: The Timeless Art of Turning Trials into Triumph - Ryan Holiday


  • Wild: From Lost to Found on the Pacific Crest Trail - Cheryl Strayed
  • Eat, Pray, Love - Elizabeth Gilbert
  • #GIRLBOSS - Sophia Amoruso
  • The Year of Magical Thinking - Joan Didion
  • The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself - Michael A. Singer
  • Love Warrior: A Memoir - Glennon Doyle
  • Some Nerve: Lessons Learned While Becoming Brave - Patty Change Anker
  • Make it Happen: Surrender Your Fear. Take The Leap. Live On Purpose - Lara Casey
  • Playing Big: Practical Wisdom for Women Who Want to Speak Up, Create, and Lead -Tara Mohr
  • The Little Book of Hygge: Danish Secrets to Happy Living -
    Meik Wiking 
  • A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life's Purpose - Eckhart Tolle
  • Girl, Wash Your Face - Rachel Hollis


  • Never Binge Again: Glenn Livingston
  • Food Freedom Forever: Letting Go of Bad Habit, Guilt and Anxiety around Food - Melissa Hartwig 
  • Stop Eating Your Heart Out: The 21 Day Guide to Free Yourself from Emotional Eating - Meryl Hershey Beck
  • Brain Over Binge: Why I was Bulimic - Kathryn Hansen
  • Food: The Good Girls Drug - Sunny Gold
  • This Naked Mind: Control Alcohol: Find Freedom, Rediscover Happiness & Change Your Life
  • Intuitive Eating: A Revolutionary Program that works - by Evelyn Tribole and Elyse Resch


  • On Edge: A Journey Through Anxiety -  Andrea Peterson
  • Dare: The New Way to End Anxiety and Stop Panic Attacks -Barry McDonagh
  • The Highly Sensitive Person: How to Thrive When the World Overwhelms You - Elaine N. Aron
  • Declutter Your Mind: How to Stop Worrying, Relieve 
  • Anxiety and Eliminate Negative Thinking - S. J Scott


  • The Road Less Traveled: A New Psychology of Love, Values, and Spiritual Growth - M. Scott Peck
  • The Noonday Demon: An Atlas of Depression - Andrew Solomon
  • Unfu*k Yourself: Get Out of Your Head and Into Your Life - Gary John Bishop 
  • It's Not Fair: Learning to Love the Life You Didn't Choose -Melanie Dale


  • Get Out Of Your Own Way: Overcoming Self-Defeating Behavior - Mark Goulston 


  • When Bad Things Happen to Good People - Harold S. Kushner


  • The Body Keeps The Score: Brain, Mind and Body In The Healing of Trauma - Bessel van der Kolk M.D 
  • The Trauma of Everyday Life: Opening The Door To Growth And Healing -by Mark Epstein M.D.


    • A Mind of Your Own: The Truth About Depression and How Women Can Heal Their Bodies to Reclaim Their Lives - Kelly Brogan 
    • The Longevity Book: the science of aging, the biology of strength, and the privilege of time - Cameron Diaz
    • Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life - Emily Nagoski Ph.D
    • The Telomere Effect: A Revolutionary Approach to Living Younger, Healthier, Longer - Dr. Elizabeth Blackburn
    • Women's Bodies, Women's Wisdom: Creating Physical and Emotional Health and Healing - Christiane Northrup M.D.

    And because that was long enough, I left out anything business related -  but I have a ton there too! Whether you're starting a new business, or need branding help, I have those rec's and I can send them over by request. 

    Anyone have anything else to add? I'm more than happy to update this list!

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