Wednesday, January 9, 2019

THE BIG BED TRANSITION.


Like most things, I probably have no idea what I’m talking about. And MAYBE no one cares. (It’s ok.) But when you’re a stay-at-home Mom and pretty much only talk to your toddler and other Moms through the Internet - these things can take on a life of their own. And as I sat up the other night (pregnancy insomnia..), I thought - WOW, I should totally blog about this. 

Hahaha.

So let’s talk bed transitions! 

Since we’re about three months out from the arrival of baby #2, we decided to pull the trigger and make the room switch. We went back and forth, and back and forth about - do we buy a second crib? A “toddler” bed? A BED BED? And even though I was pushing hard for a second crib, and then I even liked the idea of a small toddler bed, we landed on a BED BED. A FULL SIZE BED BED. What finally sold me was getting to pick out new furniture for Emily, haha. Johns pitch was basically that another crib mattress was the same price as a full size mattress, and it was too temporary. As in, in two years max Emily would need a bigger mattress. But with a FULL, she can basically take it to college. (Kidding, but maybe?)

I got TONS of advice on this from other Moms and the conclusion I got was that every kid is different.
Every family is different, every housing situation is different and everyone parents differently. So this may not help you or anyone else AT ALL. But I think as Moms we just like to hear other people’s stories anyways. And, like I said - this is my life, so it’s what I have to talk about right now. (WELCOME.)

So Emily - 20 months by the way, got a new “big girl” bed and the baby will get her “baby” furniture. A lot of people suggest waiting until kids either climb out of their crib, or can understand and ask for the transition...which is understandable because there was nothing I could tell Emily to make her understand - but I think we got lucky that she was just like - oh ok, this is happening. I’ve heard some kids will cry at their cribs, wanting in. Or some parents will move the big bed into their room, but still let them sleep in their crib for a while so they can get used to the idea. I read it might be helpful to have her watch us remove the crib from her room. Which we did do - but only because she wouldn’t stay in the other room and watch the Sesame Street episode I put on. She was there for the whole switcharoo and didn’t even flinch when we moved the crib into the room next door. It’s hard for me to say that she wasn’t ready, or that she was, but I don’t think she was overly attached to her crib by any means.



Clearly. Not attached.

*Not a real picture - I thought I'd be sentimental and take some pictures before we moved everything out, and asked if I could take her picture in her crib one last time. Clearly not.

So, no. She never climbed out or did anything that told me she was ready, but she's never been a great sleeper anyway, so it was worth the risk. People keep asking if she's sleeping worse, and the answer is no. But she's also not sleeping any better. About the same.


Other side of the room.

I picked this set out online without seeing it in person and I was pleasantly surprised. It's engineered wood - but it looks real, and who knows how long it'll last! (I don't actually expect it to make it to college, lol.) I got some questions on Instagram about where I got it from, and we get almost everything from Nebraska Furniture Mart, which are only in Omaha and Dallas, but the brand looks like "Little Dreamer Willowton." Or that's the style? Regardless - I'm not sure it's available outside of those two store locations. *And everything else is probably Target.

But enough about decor. If anything is (let me underline and bold this..) not my specialty...that's definitely not it. But maybe now, "sleep training" is.

HA.

Kidding. But we're not doing too bad! I was nervous, but overall glad that we did it now. I got a ton of advice, like I said, (mostly not to do it, lol) - but I really think you just have to work with your kid.

The first night: we kept her same bedtime routine - dinner, bath, milk, books, bed. And let me say it was SUPER comfy to be able to climb my pregnant self into her bed to read books. We used to sit on the floor and Emily would sit in my lap, and that set up was going to last about two more days for me, lol. So, we read the books, then I told her it was "night-night" like I always do. And I laid down with her...

...and l just remembered that I already shared most of this, so let me just let my Instagram stories re-tell the story.





So nothing "interesting" happened, until night THREE when she tried to pull that shit on me again where she left her room one million times. And some kind of instinct kicked in and I parented like I never had before.

A lot - like A LOT of people told me that they lock their kids in their room. So if you're one of those people, don't feel bad. Apparently everyone does it. (But everyone was like, "don't tell anyone, but.....") I wouldn't have tried that with Emily for a few reasons, A.) I'm just not that hardcore. But also B.) because Emily is just too strongwilled. She would fight all night to get out if she really wanted out. So I started off doing what I had been doing - walking her back to her room each time with a kiss and a "night-night." And it wasn't even like she was upset by any of this! She would open her door, and LAUGH at how hilarious she thought she was. And I get it - I'm sure the freedom was intoxicating for a one year old. But after like 20 times, I just sat a chair right at the end of her hallway. To speed things up, and to let her know I wasn't going anywhere. And after TWO HUNDRED more kisses and "night-nights." I stopped playing around...

And this technique will probably only work if your child has attachment items. Which for anyone who doesn't know - Emilys are her two "blankies" which are actually old fleece sleep sacks. (WHY, I don't know. It just happened one day and I didn't expect it to be the big deal that it is now. She will take those to college.) So I took her blankies, and her doll...gave her a kiss and a "night-night" and a "if you don't stay in your bed, you're not getting your blankies." And I left her room...held the door knob, counted to 60 and then repeated. She would scream and cry and NO IT IS NOT FUN. But it worked. I gave her a hug, gave her back her things, put her back into her bed...and she tried that shit three more times before she stayed in her bed, for good.

Just kidding.

She does. But then leaves in the middle of the night...which is where we're at now.

But the fact that I can put her down, and she sleeps for at least a few hours so I can get some quiet time at night is enough for me. What we're dealing with now, is that she comes walking into our room at 1 / 2 / 4 AM...asking for "Elmo?" Or a "baba?" Or sometimes yelling for her binky, which she just left her in own damn bed. (Eye roll.) But none of this really bothers me because I was used to her getting up multiple times a night and having to go to her room and get her out of her crib anyways. So in a way, this is easier. But what's funny is how she zombie-walks, half-asleep, half-running down the hallway into our room. John pulled up a picture to describe what she looks like in the middle of the night...



I've never seen this movie, but the bed head is sort of spot on. After her bath at night, I brush it back and girl's got volume.

So, typically, I let her climb up in our bed (after I tell her no Elmo, and usually have to get out to track down a binky or get her some milk) and bring her back to her bed after she falls asleep. Most mornings, she's somehow back in our bed...kicking one of us in the face - but hey, this is our life right now. And parts of it are pretty funny. Do I miss sleep? Yes. How am I going to do it with a newborn too? I don't know. But it's all a phase, right? Someday she'll be 10 / 11 / 18  and I'm sure not running down the hallway to us, and maybe I'll miss it. 

MAYBE. 

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